tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32459948.post7369765256925869912..comments2023-10-22T07:56:09.772-06:00Comments on Well, now that we're here...: A Shallow Examination of the Not-Infertile Brainmandolynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15570528484019572953noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32459948.post-70709556607353221482007-03-07T09:09:00.000-06:002007-03-07T09:09:00.000-06:00I do think perceptions are skewed about infertilit...I do think perceptions are skewed about infertility. It's misunderstood and its consequences brushed over. I think people just don't think about it unless it affects them. It's the same reason people can overlooking major issues abroad. It just doesn't affect them personally. <BR/><BR/>I do believe a lot of people view me as bitter, but I try to put such a brave face on to not let them see my hurt. I wish I didn't have to.TeamWinkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00750935087962085588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32459948.post-80458432823135126872007-03-03T08:30:00.000-06:002007-03-03T08:30:00.000-06:00I'm always suprised that with infertility you're e...I'm always suprised that with infertility you're expected to get over it and accept it quickly. I'm not suppose to be sad about my short lived pregnancy anymore. I'm not suppose to be scared that it might be my only one. You wouldn't say such things to anyone else suffering with another medical problem. The worst is the belief that it was meant to be. I get that a lot being single, but even if I were in a relationship, it would irritate me just as much. My friends who worked in OBS/GYNE seem to be the most sensitive to the situation. My other friends, especially the ones that have chosen to be childless or fell pregnant quite easily are not quite as sensitive, to put it politely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32459948.post-75710206945959068742007-03-02T18:51:00.000-06:002007-03-02T18:51:00.000-06:00I think Amy said it well. Some people can't see p...I think Amy said it well. Some people can't see past the tip of their nose. And others can sympathize or be sensitive even if the situation is completely foreign to their own experience. I think the mentality that infertility isn't a disease since it doesn't kill you (even though it is classified as a disease) leads this mindset. If you've had an easy time conceiving, you don't realize what it feels like when you can't. I'm constantly amazed when I hear how fertile friends look at infertility. And it's usually pretty hurtful.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32459948.post-14204673910845443472007-03-02T12:58:00.000-06:002007-03-02T12:58:00.000-06:00I think many of these people that act like this ar...I think many of these people that act like this are just shallow or self centered or both. I have a few friends that haven't experienced infertility, but they are just great human beings. They have compassion and understanding for situations they may not know about first hand. Those are the people I'm thankful for. Then I have at least 2 friends that don't get it at all and continue to be insensitive and selfish when it comes to my situation. When I think about other aspects of their lives though they are like that as well. It really has less to do with infertility and more to do with their inability to look outside of their little bubble!<BR/><BR/>I do know what you mean though that there needs to be more communication and I'm trying to get my story out there. The only thing is that no amount of communications is going to change people that live their lives with blinders on like I suspect many of the ladies you are refering to do!<BR/><BR/>Great post by the way!Somewhat Ordinaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701338805685025735noreply@blogger.com